Saturday, February 1, 2014

I'm Not Trying To Be SuperMom

Let me start out with an update, we recently found out we are expecting baby #2 and couldn't be more thrilled!!
Now on to my thought for the day! There is nothing wrong with feeling like SuperMom. It's a great feeling, but when you get to a point where you just feel like your spinning your wheels because you have set way too high expectations for yourself  that's when it's time for a life reassessment.
I have literally drove myself into the ground trying to do it all "right". I want what's best for my children, but I think I am sacrificing my sanity over little things that really aren't that big of a deal.
This pregnancy has been a little different so far than with Maddox in that I have had extreme fatigue, nausea, & all the rest, but me feeling like I've got to be SuperMom I have drained myself. I have not given myself the grace that God has just patiently waiting for me. I also went into this pregnancy with the mindset that I was not going to take any medication throughout the entire pregnancy and have a natural birth, which sounds good in theory, but I am so sick with heartburn & nausea all the time I can't keep much down. So, this is why I've come to the realization that maybe being SuperMom isn't really what's best. If taking some antacid medicine and nausea medicine is going to help me keep my baby nourished with food then that's what I'm going to do.
This also got me thinking about how letting my son have  something that is not homemade every once in a while is not a life or death situation and that letting him watch a little extra tv while I  take it easy right now is not as big of a deal as I make it in my head. I have built expectations up for myself that at unattainable for one person. I've seen this lady who always makes organic homemade meals for her family, and this other lady who only uses cloth diapers never a disposable, and this next lady who takes no meds her whole pregnancy and has a beautiful natural homebirth, and this lady whose house is decorated beautifully and not a thing out of place. I see all of these things and I think I need to be doing all of those things ALL of the time and it is exhausting.
I feel like if I use cloth diapers, its like an all or nothing lifestyle like organic,green, natural living lifestyle and honestly I've tried doing that and it is not all for me at this point in life. So, please excuse me while I give myself some grace to go through this season of life happy and not stressed out every time I can't cook a homemade meal or need to use a disposable diaper.
I just want to encourage all you other mommies out there to give yourself some grace and patience! If striving to do everything right is starting to affect your relationships with your spouse and kids, give yourself the grace to let the unimportant things go for a while to focus what energy you have on what is important!

2 Corinthians 12:9-10 KJV
"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong."

Sometimes God has to just bring us to that place of weakness where you feel like you've hit rock bottom so you will fully rely on Him instead of trying to do everything yourself and when you do that you always come out stronger!